The Thai 'Wai' | Thai Greeting | Understanding Thai People — Teach English in Thailand with Kids English
Often referred to as ‘The Land of Smiles,’ Thailand is famous for its culture and people’s welcoming and warm temperament.
Rice farms and elaborate temples are weaved in and around busy, sophisticated cities, reflecting the diversity of landscapes and lifestyles, and the importance of the customary greeting known as the wai.
Thailand's Diversity in Thai Culture
Being a historically independent Asian kingdom, Thailand is highly influenced by its traditions. Buddhism and the monarchy have traditionally been seen as sources of order and equilibrium in society and continue to symbolize unity for the Thai people.
Yet, the culture also accommodates contemporary practices and values. Many Thai people have embraced progressive ideas as their country has globalized. This is echoed in the country’s capital, Bangkok, an energetic cosmopolitan city comprising a melting pot of traditional influences and modern attitudes. Understanding the Thai language, especially common greetings, is essential for navigating social interactions in this vibrant city.
Thai Societal Structure
Even though Thailand is frequently promoted as a ‘partying’ tourist destination, Thai society is relatively modest and conservative. The notion of ‘face’ is one of the reinforcement factors influencing how Thais behave and interact with one another. Face refers to a person’s or a collective’s reputation, dignity, and honor.
One can give face through actions such as praising a person, displaying respect, or increasing another’s self-esteem. Moreover, indicating someone’s error, rebuking them, or raising one’s voice are all seen as traits that can cause a loss of face and bring shame.
Therefore, face can also be lost, saved, or maintained. In cultures aware of face, individuals act purposefully and with discretion to protect their self-worth and peer perception.
Conservative conduct is the norm as people wish to maintain harmony with each other and show everyone the respect they deserve.
Thais are often contemplative and deliberate in how they present themselves to preserve peace and minimize the risk of losing face. A pleasant demeanor and calm disposition are the norms, while extreme displays of negative emotions (e.g., anger, selfishness) or eruptions are avoided.
Many social exchanges among Thai people consider another individual’s status relative to oneself (i.e., level of education, age, type of employment, and position).
In nearly all cases, how one sits, walks, or interacts with others will hinge upon the status of each person present. Consequently, it is not abnormal for Thais to ask personal questions to discern your position and ensure they address you correctly and behave appropriately.
For example, Thai people pay respect with the deepness of a Wai (See Below) and by conferring or showing honor or respect that indicates both affection and relation. On a more comprehensive level, the highest level of respect is vested in the king and the monastic community.
While Thailand has a particular amount of social mobility, people typically do not contest the hierarchical structure. Instead, they tend to observe the chain of power and accept the contrasts in status among people.
In a collectivistic society, honouring and being loyal to one’s family is a vital priority. Indeed, loyalty to one’s family, friends, or community sometimes overrides social rules. For example, Thais rarely endanger the interests of the collective group and often take responsibility for fellow members.
In 1939, the country changed its name from ‘Siam’ to ‘Thailand,’ conveying “the Land of the Free.” This rhetoric of freedom has since played an influential role in creating Thailand’s national identity.
Thai people value their freedom of personal expression, speech, and religion. The country’s history of circumventing colonization by European nation-states has also contributed to the sense of pride and value in freedom and independence.
“Mai pen rai” (never mind) is a Thai phrase that echoes the overarching approach to life, which says, “It is to be enjoyed.” Thais generally have a strong work ethic yet are simultaneously inclined to be content with what they have.
This perspective is reflected in ‘Sanuk,’ the effort to accomplish satisfaction in whatever one does and make the most of any circumstance. Some Thais inject playfulness and fun into ordinary activities. It is expected to see Thai people smiling and laughing when interacting with others.
One can give face through actions such as praising a person, displaying respect, or increasing another’s self-esteem. Moreover, indicating someone’s error, rebuking them, or raising one’s voice are all seen as traits that can cause a loss of face and bring shame.
Therefore, face can also be lost, saved, or maintained. In cultures aware of face, individuals act purposefully and with discretion to protect their self-worth and peer perception.
Conservative conduct is the norm as people wish to maintain harmony with each other and show everyone the respect they deserve.
Thais are often contemplative and deliberate in how they present themselves to preserve peace and minimize the risk of losing face. A pleasant demeanor and calm disposition are the norms, while extreme displays of negative emotions (e.g., anger, selfishness) or eruptions are avoided.
Many social exchanges among Thai people consider another individual’s status relative to oneself (i.e., level of education, age, type of employment, and position).
In nearly all cases, how one sits, walks, or interacts with others will hinge upon the status of each person present. Consequently, it is not abnormal for Thais to ask personal questions to discern your position and ensure they address you correctly and behave appropriately.
For example, Thai people indicate respect with the deepness of a Wai (See Below) and by conferring or showing honor or respect that indicates both affection and relation. On a more comprehensive level, the highest level of respect is vested in the king and the monastic community.
While Thailand has a particular amount of social mobility, people typically do not contest the hierarchical structure. Instead, they tend to observe the chain of power and accept the contrasts in status among people.
In a collectivistic society, honouring and being loyal to one’s family is a vital priority. Indeed, loyalty to one’s family, friends, or community sometimes overrides social rules. For example, Thais rarely endanger the interests of the collective group and often take responsibility for fellow members.
In 1939, the country changed its name from ‘Siam’ to ‘Thailand,’ conveying “the Land of the Free.” This rhetoric of freedom has since played an influential role in creating Thailand’s national identity.
Thai people value their freedom of personal expression, speech, and religion. The country’s history of circumventing colonization by European nation-states has also contributed to the sense of pride and value in freedom and independence.
“Mai pen rai” (never mind) is a Thai phrase that echoes the overarching approach to life, which says, “It is to be enjoyed.” Thais generally have a strong work ethic yet are simultaneously inclined to be content with what they have.
This perspective is reflected in ‘Sanuk,’ the effort to accomplish satisfaction in whatever one does and make the most of any circumstance. Some Thais inject playfulness and fun into ordinary activities. It is expected to see Thai people smiling and laughing when interacting with others.
Greetings
In formal and informal situations, Thai people greet each other with the word ‘Sawasdee’ followed by ‘kah’ for females and ‘krap’ for males.
It is expected to refer to someone of a perceived higher status by the title ‘Khun’ (Mr/Ms/Miss/Mrs) followed by their first name.
People of the same age or who are close friends will omit the title ‘Khun.’
To fully appreciate these greetings, it is beneficial to learn Thai and understand the cultural nuances behind them.
The Wai: How to Wai
Greetings are accompanied by the movement known as ‘thais wai,’ which involves placing two palms together, fingertips touching the nose. A Wai demonstrates respect for another person and acknowledges seniority. People should bow their heads with their palms pushed together to show respect. The deepness of the bow and the height of the hands convey a level of respect.
The position of the hands, where the thumbs touch the chin, nose, or eyebrows, indicates the level of respect being conveyed.
A senior individual may politely Wai in response to a person who is younger or subordinate to them. This is usually done with their hands at chest level (fingertips not touching the face) and only a slight bowing of the head, resembling a nod. This Wai, known as a ‘Rup Wai,’ is an acknowledgment of the other person.
This is a similar gesture to those found in neighboring cultures, reflecting a shared emphasis on respect, such as the Cambodian sampeah and Indonesian sembah.
Wai for Older People
To demonstrate esteem for parents, teachers, and the senior members of society, the pushed palms of the Wai should be higher so that the thumbs meet the nose and the fingertips sit between the eyebrows.
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Wai for Younger People
To demonstrate esteem for people younger or of the same age or employment position (peer to peer), the pushed palms of the Wai should be higher so that the thumbs meet the chin, and the fingertips sit below the nose. (See below)
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Wai for Royals & Monks
There is a Wai dedicated to Buddha images, monks, and the royal family that involves prostration. This Wai is only for religious or royal situations. (See below)
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Understanding why wai is important helps in appreciating its role in Thai etiquette and social interactions.
Some believe that the wai may have been influenced by a yogic posture that symbolizes respect and equality.
The Wai is imperative when engaging in interactions with Thai people; the absence of a Wai will result in an individual being considered rude and inconsiderate and not attempting to assimilate into Thai culture.
Paying Respect with the Wai
Paying respect with the Wai is an essential part of Thai culture and etiquette. When performing the Wai, it’s crucial to remember that the gesture is not just a physical movement but also a way of showing respect and humility. The Wai is a sign of respect that is deeply ingrained in Thai society, and it’s used to greet people, say goodbye, show respect, and apologize.
When paying respect with the Wai, it’s essential to consider the social status and age of the person you are greeting. In Thai culture, age and social status play a significant role in determining who should Wai first. As a general rule, the younger person should Wai the older person first, as a sign of respect.
The Wai is also used to express gratitude and appreciation. When someone does something for you, it’s customary to Wai them as a way of saying thank you. This gesture is a way of showing respect and gratitude, and it’s an essential part of Thai etiquette.
How to Wai: A Guide
Learning how to Wai is an essential part of experiencing Thai culture. The Wai is a traditional Thai greeting that involves placing the palms of the hands together and bowing the head slightly. Here’s a step-by-step guide on how to Wai:
Place your palms together in front of your chest, with your fingers pointing upwards.
Slightly bow your head, keeping your back straight and your shoulders relaxed.
Make sure your index fingers touch, as this is an essential part of the Wai gesture.
Hold the Wai for a brief moment before releasing your hands.
It’s essential to remember that the Wai is not just a physical gesture but also a way of showing respect and humility. When performing the Wai, make sure to be mindful of your body language and facial expressions. This traditional greeting is a beautiful way to connect with Thai people and show your appreciation for their culture.
When not to Wai: Sign of Respect
When interacting with people in the service industry, such as cafes, shops, 7/11, restaurants, security guards, massage shops, taxi drivers, etc., regardless of their age, it’s important to note that improper use of a Wai can make others feel a little confused.
What is noteworthy is that trying to show respect is always appreciated in Thailand, so don’t overthink when in doubt, Wai.
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